Violetta M. Fernandez, LCSW

Buenas! I’m Violetta and my pronouns are she/they. I’m a Spanglish speaking, Mexican American, LCSW therapist that works with clients in California and Texas. I support folks who don’t feel safe and supported by their families. This includes non biological family members. I personally have been disowned and no contact with my family for the past 5 years. My experience inspires my work to support BIPOC and/or Queer family members that struggle with the shame and guilt of not having a close relationship with family.

During our time together you can expect to feel supported, develop insight, and gain strategies to move forward. This includes:

1. Identifying what level of contact with family feels healthy for you. From no contact to reconciliation.
2. Increasing awareness of emotions like guilt, shame, grief, and uncertainty.
3. Examining cultural and societal beliefs about family that may conflict with your values.
4. Creating safety and exit plans for family gatherings and high stress situations.
5. Recognizing patterns of abuse or neglect and learning how to disrupt them.
6. Building conflict resolution and assertiveness skills to support healthier communication.

Tools used in sessions include psychoeducation, Inner Child Healing, and Brainspotting. Brainspotting is a trauma-focused method that helps identify, process, and release unresolved emotional experiences stored in the brain and body.

Outside of being a therapist, I’m also an aqua fitness instructor and love making wreaths! I’m a former teen mom and absolutely love spending time with my daughter. I earned my Bachelor’s in Social Work in 2013 and my Master’s in Social Work in 2014 from Our Lady of the Lake University, in San Antonio, Texas. I welcome you to share your journey with me.